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Dealing with loss CeaseAndDesist 2017/10/11 (Wed) 15:11:49 No.726

So my parents died 3 years ago. I was 21 at the time and my sister was 12. She came to live with me after they died since we don't have any living relatives. The first year was really rough. We cried a lot together and I tried to be there for her. She seemed to get over it in time and since then she's been doing a lot better.

About 4 months ago I heard her talking to someone in her room. It was nearly 1 am so I was curious on why she was still up. I put my ear against the door I just heard her faintly say "I love you too Daddy." I know it's weird but I assumed she may have been having an inappropriate conversation with someone on the phone so I went inside and found her talking to a picture of our father hanging up on the wall. I asked her what was happening and she just said she was "Talking to Daddy." I wasn't sure what to do so I left her alone and hoped that this wasn't something that she's been doing for a while. I've overheard her talking to the photo multiple times since then and I'm genuinely worried. My family has a history of Schizophrenia. (I personally have it and my father had it.) She's never showed any signs before and I'm hoping that she's just still having trouble letting go of them. I'm worried to take her to a doctor or therapist partially because of the cost and partially because I don't want her to feel abnormal or weird. Any advice on what I should do?

Rachael 2017/10/11 (Wed) 15:42:26 No.729

Talking to yourself through grief is common; however, Schizoid related disorders tend over roughly 6 month period.

Unspecified 2017/10/11 (Wed) 17:47:51 No.731

Get her to a therapist. Even if it's not schizophrenia it's a good idea for her to talk about her grief with somebody.

Dr. Eldon Tyrell 2017/10/12 (Thu) 00:19:53 No.740

That doesn't necessarily have to be a mental illness. Maybe it's just taking her longer to accept her parents' deaths. Even so, I do agree with >>731 since it's been so long and she should be speaking to someone about it if it's really affecting her.

Saito 2017/10/13 (Fri) 23:42:05 No.747

How about you stop guessing around and trying to decide reality based off two or three external data points, and just talk to her about it until to find out if she's just talking to the photo to make it feel like she's talking to her dad, or if she imagines and perceives a real tangible live person in the room without being aware of doing so.

Tachikoma 2017/10/16 (Mon) 16:56:16 No.752

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ah, gosh, that's really hard

maybe you could go see somebody together? you could tell the therapist what's up when you're fixing the appointment, and it might be good for you too, talking through some things