/feels/ - personal experiences

go out more, socialize , find new friends and have sex ( its not that hard )

>>2910
Then, tell me, oh wise lainon.

How do I make friends so they invite me to go drinking or something? Outside classes. Also, secundary question, not that important, how to approach women without being weird? I am not ugly, I swear. People smile to me sometimes, not a bad sign I think.

>>2911
try to invite them instead of waiting for them to invite you.

about the women question idk, i'll probably die without having another girlfriend ever again. the only protip i have is if you socialize a lot and have friends and a lot of familiar people, you can learn from them what people consider weird, so you can avoid weird actions. easy to say, very hard to do, at least for me, i already accepted that i'll die without any friends.

The ultimate social advice that applies to any situation is to simply be yourself. It's a total cliche but its true.

What being yourself means is you say what you want to say. you do what you want to do, and ask for the things you want. Without baseing any of that on how you think other people respond.

No, you are neither drawing closer, invisibly, nor are you just going crazy.
What you do is have dreams about your friend, probably because you miss him or close friendship.

Why do people make all these totally random bullsoykaf inferences from totally unrelated premises?

>>2912 >>2913
Thanks for answering, everyone. Hopefully this semester will be better in terms of sociability, let's see…

>>2911
As a friendless adult, the stage when you're in school is crucial in making friends. You're there a lot of times with the same people every week so you ought to make the most of socializing there. When adulthood comes, it becomes a bit harder. Why?
I think it's because adults have a lot of responsibilities, and have already got their circle of friends figured out. Their friends' birthdays, marriages, kids all in their busy schedules not to mention work, loved ones' occasions too. Sure they're 'open' to having more friends but you're not in the priority list.

If you're friendless as an adult and want to make friends, all I can give as advice to you is to frequent places where you're comfortable. If you like to unwind by drinking, frequent smaller bars (but don't get fucking drunk obviously). If you like books, go to libraries, church, any social events you agree to. Find local people online and go to those meetups. Talk to people about trending news and soykaf (not political or controversial stuff). Frequenting bars worked for me for a while. Almost got a genuine friend out of the bartender before I fell into crippling depression and cut myself off from any social contact entirely.

As for approaching women, it's kind of the same thing, but a bit trickier. Personally, I always say on /r9k/ for similar questions that one should work on oneself first. If you think you could lose a little weight first, do it. If you think you need more self-confidence, work on it, etc. The reason I say this is because approaching women is, like I said, a little tricky. It's just like making friends with them, but you have to be prepared to be rejected and be fine with it.. and it will happen a lot. I say this from experience. I'm admittedly your average *chan goer, spilling spaghetti and being typically pathetic with women during my younger years, evaluated myself a lot (and still am), and recently got an attractive girl to rest her head on my shoulder (as practice).

After all that wall of text, I still don't think I'm an authority when it comes to friends, and I don't think anyone does too. I'm just offering you my genuine advice from anon to anon, where those steps have worked for me before some stuff happened.

Also >>2913. Being yourself is not just a meme, but it also means not showing off your powerlevel.. at least prematurely.

>>2917
>>2909
Also btw… If you haven't already read that Carnegie book: How to Win Friends & Influence People. Read it over and over until you dream about his lessons.

I know how you feel, I haven't talked to my best friend of 3 years in 6 months and can't find them anywhere. I really fear the worst

>>2911
People are more open than you think man. Before my first year in college i used to be much more introverted and isolated by everyone. However! as soon as i got to college i tried a little experiment. I started talking to people on my own "hey, do you have a lighter?" "thanks, hey which class you study?" i tried talking and finding out about their interests. People are more keen to answer when you make questions about themselves. I ended up being something like class president and honestly a lowkey popular person. I think that we are simply afraid cause we think that other people might feel immediately weirded out or that they are inherently shy. Just give it a go. I'm sure that they are more than willing to talk most of the time, and when you're done with that everything else is easy. Most people are NOT grumpy, or impolite when talked to. Even introverts. If you end up by any chance with a person being impolite or get cues that they don't wanna talk, just greet them peacefully and leave. No one got harmed. Wish you luck.