/feels/ - personal experiences

Balance your efforts, do what is possible, and what is useful. Everything can be made better, but if it works, dont waste your time duplicating effort needlessly.

>>2237
deep down I know you're right but it just never feels that simple. It's self-absorbed and annoying to others but searing to me not being able to let go when you know everyone wants you to

>>2238
makes you feel alien

There is no "fixing", only changing. The idea of "broken" and "fixed" depend in part on the things being fixed, so a fix will change your outlook on what is what, causing more work to appear. The best you can get is an arbitrary consistency.

Side note: the world will eventually break you in ways nobody can fix.

>>2240
sort of like "the way is no way"
Side note: that's hemingway. I always hated that quote.

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry."

>>2240
i agree in changing the way you view things is a solution, not viewing things between a fixed or broken imperative but I don't think the consistency in action is completely arbitrary. Then again you may not have meant it this way. It's becoming more and more apparent that there's a relatively normal substrate to becoming or feeling better. It's arbitrary in so far as everyone has their own arbitrary inclinations to aligning themselves with that substrate, but those arbitrary inclinations seem to align on a particular set of stepping stones. it's generalizing but things like family friends and a over-arching goal seem to fit ninety percent of people.

>>2241
it's just hellish knowing you're going to break either before while or after you find those things.

As much as i enjoyed Hemingway I dislike the idea of breaking unduly at least. That leads me to worry that the break may be fatal.

But again it doesn't matter. I agree with you, arbitrary or no, it's consistency. I just have to do something and find out. I'd tell myself to quit bitching but it's more like stop the negative feedback loop. So fixing or leaving it broken doesn't work but re-framing the picture and changing the door of perception.

>>2237
>>2240

Not trying to waste time or fish a line
or burn effort needlessly just cant help over thinking. Have to try every option

thank you