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 No.1820

Is there anyone here who is good at talking to people? I can generally make strangers/waitresses/etc. laugh and have a decent conversation, but it's different with people I see consistently. I just don't know what to say to them. I can't really talk to most people about /pol/ soykaf, not that they would care about it anyway. And I pretty much don't watch TV. Is that really all regular people talk about though? The TV?

I want to have deeper conversations with people, but I find them pretty hard to open a lot of the time. The only consistent way I've found to get people to have an in-depth conversation with me is if I tell them I don't know how to talk to people. Generally we can have some meta talk about what people regularly talk about and different types of personalities and stuff, but I think it leaves a damper on the relationship now that they know I am socially inept.

Maybe I'm just blogging. I don't know. What do lainons talk about in meatspace?

 No.1823

Same here. I wouldnt say that i m good at talking with strangers but i find it ridiculously unnecesseary to talk about /pol/, /soccer/, or anything that doesnt involves deep stuff. So i speak less and have very few friends but i m okay with this since i wouldnt enjoy having friends to talk useless things

 No.1824

Whenever I speak my mind to some topic I relate to, the conversation turns sour or the other party doesn't know how to continue and changes topic. Since I don't watch TV or go outside much, I have nothing to contribute, so I keep my mouth shut. I rarely start conversations. Somehow depression kicks in, whenever I try. Thoughts like "nobody is interested in your bullsoykaf opinion" or "if you don't speak, nobody gets annoyed of you speaking" fill my head.

I have a friend I can talk to easily. We have fluent discussions about all sorts of stuff. When we do so, I often feel like, we had to speed up, because so many words need to be exchanged, it's like a game. As a result we both actually talk very fast.
Sometimes I admit not being well enough informed to provide a justified standpoint on the matter. In that case my friend starts to explain and we are good again. It's like other people are simply not interested in their own talk.

At my last workplace I heard gossip about me, acting like a robot. No wonder I got fired few weeks later.

So no, I am really bad at talking and it cripples me.

 No.1827

I'm not. I feel uneasy when someone is near, and don't know how to speak "normally" to other people. And in general I love to be alone. And my voice is weird, I either borderline scream or mumble to myself. I both can't and don't want to socialize. Hilariously enough I work at a coffee shop and have to talk to a soykafton of people every day, and the owner wants me to chat with everyone. Small talk. I doubt there's something I detest more than small talk.
I am slowly losing my mind.

 No.1860

I make a somewhat convincing impression of a rela human being.

 No.1870

I moved schools half way through high school, and between moving I had an idea. Beforehand I had always been very quiet and lonely at school and it sucked, but I came up with a theory that there is effectively no difference between pretend confidence and real confidence. So when I started at my new school, since there was no stakes, I just pretended that I was the coolest person on the planet. All my nerdy hobbies I talked about openly like they were the dopest soykaf. Since there was no stakes I figured it would be worth a shot, I only had one more year of school left. Low and behold, it worked better than I could ever have imagined and people just assumed I was a chad. Since then I just know that this works and use it when I need it. Often it's actually inconvenient like at work it's often easier to just keep silent. But on the rare occasion I am invited to a social event I can just play the chad character and be popular.



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