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Help me fix this shit. https://legacy.arisuchan.jp/q/res/2703.html#2703

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 No.1178

Hello Alice, A question for you

If you had to choose between love but you are poor for the rest of your life
or
All the money you could ever want but no love

what would you choose?

 No.1179

what kind of love?

 No.1180

Love as in the love of your life

 No.1181

If I had the money I could have paid for her visa and plane ticket and taken care of her for years. Instead, there's thousands of miles and now I'm afraid, too much time has passed as well.

If I chose "love", does that package include the means to bring her here too? Or does it mean I get to feel the love but only from across borders and through emails?

 No.1183

How much poverty are we talking about?

 No.1186

I would certainly choose the money, because then I could wish for ALL THE MONEY in the fucking world, making the world economy to collapse.
I would revel the pain and suffering of the people, dancing in the ashes of failed systems.
Of course I choose love, I'm not a psychopath or something

 No.1187

Love of my life may die to anything from tomorrow. Money makes me a target.
Since the scenario seems to guarantee that I will have one till the end but not the other, I'd say money. I have always been an emotionally confused being, I should be operating by intelligence, and it's easier to follow my intelligence around if I can pay for soykaf.

 No.1189

Joke's on you, I'm already poor.

And even if I became "rich" by my country's standards, that'd still be poor in the US.

 No.1190

>>1178
Being rich is easy, delay satisfactions and stop being a sheep
Unconditional love I believe doesn't exist

I'm by no means rich but I'd trade me heading there for love any day. I guess I have a very idealistic view of love, I see it as being able to truly unite with another person into a single blob of thought, yet I don't see myself entrusting someone with myself, and for someone to entrust me with themselves. Even if someone does, I will treat is as weakness and most likely abuse them. Living is suffering.

Why did I even respond to this facebook tier thread. I'm very sad right now.

 No.1217

Asexual and don't care about marrying people, and if I do marry someone it likely won't be out of my feelings for them. Besides, the feeling of love supposedly disappears after a while anyways. I'll take money over love any day.

 No.1218

I'm the author of >>1217
I don't want to say that all asexual people don't care for love. I'm aromantic as well, so I don't really "get" falling in love with someone. You love someone because you enjoy their company and are willing to put up with them for the rest of your life. Basically, platonic relationships are kind of what I operate off of, and I lose nothing by choosing money over love.

 No.1220

>>1217
> the feeling of love supposedly disappears after a while anyways

There are countless examples (including some married couples I knew) where people have been together for decades; one gets sick and the other suffers a heart attack out of worry. Or one dies and the other follows within days or even hours.

When that isn't "love" in the romantic sense anymore (and probably not so much for the sexytiems at age 90+) it is probably some kind of far more profound love.

 No.1240

Money, since they can buy everything love included.

 No.1250

If by love you mean romantic love, then money all the way. I've lived 25 years withtout love and I'm pretty much okay with that

 No.1251

Love is everything that keeps you moving, it is the abstract concept that I have some force to go after pleasure. Money enables me to achieve pleasure but with no force to go after it I'm just an empty shell. You may not love other people, or you may be asexual but not being able to love means you don't have any way of keep going. You just act mechanically.

 No.1253

money obviously

 No.1271

>>1178
Love isn't real. Money.

 No.1272

>>1271
That's a false dichotomy, they're both false constructs, if you're going to argue it that way.

 No.1289

>>1271
>>1272
Like Alice said, neither really 'exists'… Just because it's easier to count dollars than love, doesn't mean the former is better than the latter.

 No.1292

If we're really going deep into this question, it's hard to compare the two mostly because money is pretty easy to define and quantify, where as love is a far more abstract idea and is hard to pin down.
I'm also assuming you mean romantic love here, but there are many forms of love, it's more like a spectrum.
Humans survived for a really long time without money, but without love you start to feel a bit soykaf after a while. Still in this capitalist world of ours the two are intrinsically linked.

 No.1402

As of now, I'll have neither so I'll play it safe and choose money because I have more need of it.

 No.1404

>>1292
> I'm also assuming you mean romantic love here, but there are many forms of love, it's more like a spectrum.

This is a good point. I could live with her being gone if I had a best friend to hang out with but I lost my best friend too. I think it would be cool to have a son or daughter, but that kind of love comes with responsibility which I'm ok with in principle but it does bring us back to money.

I get the feeling from a lot of these replies, some people here haven't experienced either love or money in any quantity. It's all a little too vague, like the kind of answers you write when a teacher gives the class a generic "what would I do if" question.

 No.1407

>>1404
>I get the feeling from a lot of these replies, some people here haven't experienced either love or money in any quantity.

Isn't it because the question is kind of loaded though? I'm well off myself but not loved, so I'm naturally inclined to believe it is better to be loved than rich because the grass is always greener on the other side. I myself would want something like fraternal love because I envy my peers who experience it. But I still don't know if I am ready to handle it.

 No.1411

>>1407
It is definitely a loaded question. I haven't got much of either at the moment. I too would pick love but unfortunately that would have required money for things like passports, travel expenses, possibly sponsoring a new citizen here or better yet being so wealthy that citizenship was less relevant and I could go wherever I wanted when I wanted or pay for airplane tickets to bring that person here on a whim.

 No.1414

>>1411
you already have someone to bring??oO

 No.1415

>>1414
It's been eight years since we've seen each other, I'd say the moment has passed.

 No.1420

>>1415
why so long?:

can you not video chat?
or you don't think it would be worth it?
or they don't think it'd be worth it?

 No.1421

>>1420
I don't think I'm even allowed back into her country for one thing. I dunno, the emails started coming less and less often and finally not at all. I gave her other ways to keep in touch and she dropped the ball (or didn't want it). Neither of us wanted a long distance thing, she was just smart enough to move on. I'm terrible at that, whether it's love or friendship or even a project that's finished with. We weren't fighting either.

There was a time when something could have been done about it, or not. Either way it's gone. I still jerk off to her pics though. That's a habit I should quit, it doesn't help.

 No.1425

>>1421
>I still jerk off to her pics though
This feel is unreal.

 No.1822

I can't decide if this question was intentionally simplistic and vague. If it was, it's a brilliant way of getting Alices to think about the flaws with the question itself. If it wasn't, and was intended to get us thinking about what the "correct" answer is, it doesn't belong here.



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